Man Starts Depression Med: Wants Divorce: This is a Problem of Epidemic Proportions with SSRIs

First sentence of the second paragraph reads:  "'I'm on antidepressants and have told my wife that I'm thinking about leaving."

SSRI Stories note:  One of the most often cited problems as told to SSRI Stories is that of a spouse asking for a divorce shortly after starting an SSRI or SNRI antidepressant.

I might leave my wife for a woman with whom I've become infatuated

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I'm 29 and have been with my wife for 10 years. We got married last year. Just before Christmas I met a girl on a night out. I ended up at her flat and we kissed. I couldn't get her out of my mind and tracked her down. We agreed to be friends, but met and kissed again. Eventually we had sex. I was in constant contact with her for around four months. She's 24, is getting married herself and has cut off contact. I think I've fallen in love with her.

I'm on antidepressants and have told my wife that I'm thinking about leaving. She loves me deeply but has seen what I've been through. I don't want to hurt my wife but it feels wrong to be with her when I want to be with someone else. If I leave her I'll be single, but really all I want is to be with the other woman. What should I do?

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