” ‘I have (been through it) as well. I’ve got it under control with exercise and vitamins and eating well. I think that’s the point I’d like to get across ... it doesn’t make billions of dollars for companies so it’s never promoted that way.”
” ‘Anti-depressants are the first thing that’s offered. I know that when I took them there were so many side effects, I just thought `this is not right, it doesn’t feel right’. Eventually I came off them’.”
Borderers celebrate their son’s life
16 Mar 10 @ 04:35pm by Jeff Crawford
MESSAGE OF LOVE: Alex and Jim Paterson, of The Borderers, with a picture of their son, Rowan.
JIM and Alex Paterson, of The Borderers, return to local stages this week for the first time since the loss of their son, Rowan, 18.
Jim, of Ridleyton, says the love and support from the band’s many friends and followers has been “totally amazing’’.
The singer/guitarist says the response to emails they sent to friends about Rowan’s suicide has been a revelation.
“From 300 emails (sent out), maybe a quarter of them have experienced the same thing,’’ Jim says.
“It goes on all the time, you just don’t know about it.’’
The Scottish-born musician also has a message to deliver about dealing with depression more naturally.
“I have (been through it) as well. I’ve got it under control with exercise and vitamins and eating well. I think that’s the point I’d like to get across … it doesn’t make billions of dollars for companies so it’s never promoted that way.
“Anti-depressants are the first thing that’s offered. I know that when I took them there were so many side effects, I just thought `this is not right, it doesn’t feel right’. Eventually I came off them.
“You need to look at the cause and not just the symptoms, find out where it’s coming from.’’
The band plans to make this Thursday’s support spot with Irish band The Saw Doctors a celebration of Rowan’s life (the night after celebrating daughter Asia’s 12th birthday on St Patrick’s Day).
“We were going to do our own show but because Rowan really liked The Saw Doctors, we’ll make this the celebration.’’
Jim adds that recent gigs in Port Fairy proved to be therapeutic for the couple.
“That was all lined up nine months ago, we didn’t really want to do them. But when we did them, there was just so much love, really.
“People said `you can’t stop doing this, we love what you do, there are positive messages in the songs’, so that was good. It was totally amazing, actually.’’
Jim says friends also provided meals and helped pay for his parents to fly out from Scotland.
The Borderers (supporting The Saw Doctors): Governor Hindmarsh Hotel, Thursday, March 18. Bookings: Venuetix. For a chance to win a Saw Doctors CD, go to the Competitions section on this site.
For 24-hour support phone Lifeline on 13 11 14.